From Generation to Generation

Psalm 78:4- We will not hide them from their children, but tell to the coming generation the glorious deeds of the Lord, and his might, and the wonders that he has done.

While giving thanks this past week, my family gathered in my hometown of Enterprise, AL to pack up my family home. After 33 years, and more memories than I can count, my childhood home is getting ready to be sold to another family. It was harder than I thought. I remember watching my parent’s custom-built dream home built from the digging of the earth to the final touches. Just about every day my mom would ride us over to the “new house” to see the progress. It was very exciting for me as a second grader because not only were we going to have a new home, but we were building next door to some of my parent’s best friends. We would have instant neighborhood friends.

When my mom died in 2013, we all knew that one day the home would have to be sold. Mentally it was inevitable, but emotionally I kept avoiding the subject in favor of trying to be strong. I couldn’t help feeling a twinge of resentment that our family home would no longer be the place that my own children would go to year after year throughout their lives as I did to both of my grandparents’ homes. Sure, my children are old enough to remember being there, but it was a little sad, nonetheless. It’s already hard enough that they didn’t really get to know my mom well enough.

My mom was truly the most organized person I’ve ever known. Thankfully, she was mostly specific about who got what “stuff” in the house from children to grandchildren. It made for an easy time to divvying up the furniture, artwork, dishes, and knickknacks around the house. Every.single.piece tells a story and we rehearsed those stories all week. It was emotionally exhausting, but cathartic, nonetheless. While the house itself will become void of our personal touch, the pieces within are being spread out among the other five of my nuclear family members. History will live on in each of our own homes…stories will be rehearsed time and time again of the wonderful memories of living at 106 E. Sandcreek from generation to generation.

I couldn’t help but think about how important history is to the local church. Without history, we simply cannot understand the journey that has led a particular body of believers to their current place. I know older adults who are passionate about the church growing and moving forward, but it’s hard for them to let go of certain memories…perhaps even pieces of furniture or mementos that signify something that is deeply important to them. These older adults probably realize that they cannot re-create the past, or dwell in it, but it’s important to them nonetheless. Some things probably seem trivial to younger generations. Don’t worry, older adults feel the same way about some of the “new” things younger adults are passionate about as well.

My family home will likely get a makeover cosmetically, and that’s okay. It probably needs it. The memories we made there will never fade, however. Likewise, we, as the church, must be sensitive to the felt needs of each generation because sometimes changes need to be made. Every generation seems to have (or create) their own “sacred cows.” What is most important is that the gospel not change. Sure, processes and ministries should change as time goes on, but never the life-changing truth of the Word.

Was Blind But Now I See

Ephesians 5:8- “For you were once darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Walk as children of light”

Earlier this year, I had the privilege of meeting and welcoming to our choir an incredible singer and musician. It’s always a joy to welcome new folks who visit your church and immediately want to get involved in your ministry. Born in the early 70s, Wesley is a Gen Xer who loves choir. Wesley oozes charisma with his dynamic personality. One cannot spend more than a few moments around him without realizing just how hilarious he is—he’s a joy to be around. As you’re reading this, you’re probably thinking, “wow, what a great addition to your choir!” You would be correct…he is a wonderful addition to our choir. But, what I haven’t told you yet is Wesley lost his sight several years ago. He is completely blind; he can barely even see shadows of light.

It’s hard for me to imagine the pain, the disappointment, and the frustration he must feel after living 40 years or so and then to lose your sight (I won’t go into the details of how he lost his sight, but it’s a miracle he’s alive). I met Wesley after a dark period in his life and ministry. Wesley has been a worship leader and praise team member (a really good one) prior to his arrival here. He told me that at his last church he couldn’t serve on a praise team anymore because the church was nervous about the liability of getting him on and off the platform. Wesley came to us wanting to serve through music; he was willing to overcome the odds of his limitations. After hearing his story, I wasn’t going to let his talents go to waste just because he would require a little extra attention. In fact, I made it my mission to integrate him into our ministry.

Thankfully, all those years of music training allowed Wesley to develop an incredible ear. While he (was) extremely proficient at reading music prior to his sight loss, he no longer can follow the score or watch his conductor. But, he does an amazing job anyway. He records every rehearsal and learns everything by rote throughout the week. Sometimes he’s more prepared for rehearsals than those with sight! He is an inspiration to all in our choir. You know what else is so great? Our choir members have embraced him with everything they have. They help him on and off the platform, and love and treat him just like everyone else. Of course, Wesley is such a great guy and so encouraging, it’s hard not to love him. In fact you’ll hear at least one or two jokes related to sight during our rehearsals, just to keep things light. I asked Wesley to remind me of some of those jokes we like to jab at one another such as:

  1. Hey Wes, I notice you forgot your score tonight, why don’t you just share John’s next to you? You can just look over his shoulder.
  2. Tenors, mark that coda with a highlighter if you have to; don’t miss that page turn. Wes says to me, “What color should I use to highlight my part?”
  3. Wes, I’m just going to stomp on the beat ya’ll come in, okay? (any choir member I’ve ever had knows my penchant for stomping)

Joking aside, Wesley has found a way to serve even with his sight limitations. In fact, it was just a couple of weeks ago he and another one of our talented choir members sang the “old” standard, “I’ve Just Seen Jesus.” Not only was it well done, but there is NOTHING like hearing a blind man sing about “seeing” Jesus by proclaiming his faith in the Lord.

If we are serious about valuing all people where they are, then we must be prepared to welcome folks with physical, emotional, or mental limitations as they enter through the doors of our churches. All they desire is to be given a chance to serve like everyone else…to be a part of our ministries, and we MUST treat them with every ounce of grace that we can. Sure, this means I (you) might have to do a little extra work to make sure he can learn his part well. We’ve even met one on one to run vocal parts a few times and they’ve been wonderful times of “worshipful work” with my new brother in Christ. However, I’m not the only one bearing the load. I’m happy to “brag” on my people and say that they have demonstrated God’s grace to Wesley time and time again. We have to be a “whatever it takes” kind of people or we will alienate those who want to participate. If we fail to include all, many of whom already feel defeated and frustrated, they will simply leave because no one is willing to go the extra mile. This concept also applies to all persons from all walks of life, ethnicities, and backgrounds here at our church. We must be willing expand and morph into what God is making us as a church without trying to always prefer the easy road. It is important that we treat everyone with value, loving our neighbor as ourselves if we desire authentic community.

I want to close with a note Wesley sent to me recently about how he has found community here at Ivy Creek and specifically in our music ministry after one of our lunches together (his daughter calls them “blind dates!”). It remind me that what we do is important, even if we have to take risks to make it happen.

 Thank you, thank you, thank you for the opportunities that you’ve given me to sing and to participate in the community of the choir. It is a part of my life that I missed tremendously after going blind. A church I attended before I was blind allowed me to be a part of their ministry, but after I lost my site they said I was a liability and could not safely get on and off the platform. This truly discouraged me because I connect to God through musical worship and it is my love language to Him. I feel the most alive when we’re singing together in a large group setting or even a small group setting by returning the praise and gifts and talents that He gave me. Thank you, Will; you are a blessing in my life.  

By Our Love

John 13:35- “By this all people will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another”

This week I’m reading  the new book written by Keith and Kristyn Getty, “Sing.” I was glad to read much of what they are writing about are things that I have also been writing about. Chapter six is especially germane to the last few blog posts I’ve written about the importance of community in the local church. The Gettys state that all of us, even late teens and twenty-year olds, are searching for community, creativity, and communication in our churches.

Creativity means that excellence is more important than trying to emulate someone else’s musical style. Never underestimate the power of simplicity and authenticity in your music so you have the ability to “think outside the box” creatively. By trying to simply copy another church’s platform, you rob yourself from being the church God has called you to be, with the talents, gifts, and graces of the people in your flock. For example, I like Mexican food…very much so. Most of the people closest to me are aware that I could pretty much eat it every day. There is a great casual dining restaurant in our area that is “like” a Moe’s or Chipotle, but they offer limited variety of options—but do it (in my humble opinion) better than anyone else in our area. They are always busy—always. Their approach is fresh and affordable, no frills, do fewer things really well….and they do. I liken this to the approach that we at Ivy Creek take in our approach to most everything we do. We realize we shouldn’t be “better” than some churches in our area at certain things, so we have identified what we do really well (perhaps I’m partial–but better than many of our sister churches) and we do that creatively with the talents of in our church. This approach to being authentic, creative in fewer things, and intergenerational in our approach, allow us to focus on making all generations feel valued and welcome.

Communication is also important. We aim to communicate truth by being biblically-centered and gospel-rich. Our pastor preaches expositionally so you are not generally getting his personal opinions or platitudes on issues, but biblical instruction. Our music is also theologically-rich, gospel centered, musically interesting, and able to be done with excellence. This “meat” is what all ages can chew on throughout life.  Our songs of faith should be rich with what I call “lasting” songs. That’s primarily one of the reasons why I almost never teach a brand new song until I see that it has “lasting” power.

Community is very important for us as well. Certainly we work hard to integrate our church and have opportunities to interrelate, but we also work hard on reaching our community. We sponsor a Good News Bible Club at one of our local elementary schools; we have on campus major events where we have hundreds and hundreds of visitors come to hear the gospel. We do nursing home ministry, Good News at Noon, prison ministry, and the list goes on.  We have community IN and OUT of our church. This is important for many reasons, but especially as you consider the research that suggests that young people really are “cause” driven and care about social issues. Without investment in our communities, there will be less engagement among the various generations in your church.

In closing, I couldn’t help but think about this great contemporary choral anthem that our choir and orchestra learned several years ago by Christy Nockels, “By Our Love.” The text describes perfectly what our mission and goal is at Ivy Creek. If we are going to be a community that leaves a legacy of faith (long after we’re gone), we’ve got to be reaching in, yes, but also out into our community, demonstrating the love of Christ in tangible ways.

 

“By Our Love”

Brothers, let us come together
Walking in the Spirit, there’s much to be done
We will come reaching, out from our comforts
And they will know us by our loveSisters, we were made for kindness
We can pierce the darkness as He shines through us
We will come reaching, with a song of healing
And they will know us by our love!

Children, You are hope for justice,
Stand firm in the Truth now, set your hearts above
You will be reaching, long after we’re gone,
And they will know you by your love!

The time is now
Come Church arise
Love with His hands
See with His eyes
Bind it around you,
Let it never leave you,
And they will know us by our love